Motown Saturday Night

If only seat dancing were real exercise, then I would have runs marathon tonight. Russ, Carter’s and I went to see Motown at the DPAC and it was the sound track of my young life. I was so sorry that our friends the Prebbles had to miss the show, but it meant Carter got to come and our friend Susan sat with us.

Not only was the show a good two and half hours of songs I love, but the young actor who played Micheal Jackson, Reed Shannon was a friend of Susan’s daughter and Carter had just sat with him at dinner. He was exceptional.

I was particularly happy to have Susan next to me because when Diana Ross sang, “Reach out and Touch”, she asked the audience to join hands and raise them high in the air and sway back and forth. Susan gladly grabbed my hand, but Carter and Russ refused. Carter said I abused them for not joining in.

It’s too late to get tickets for this show here in Durham, but if you can see it someplace else with this great cast do it. I am thinking I need to pull out all my old Motown albums and make myself a good playlist to exercise to. I certainly got my share tonight and I was trying my hardest not to annoy the people behind me with all my wiggling. It took all I had not to get up and dance.

Somebody Is Going to Lose, But You Are Still Winners

Except if you are trying to reduce your weight losing is not fun. Today was the final game of Carter’s basketball season and it was a hard loss to their big rival Ravenscroft. That means no advancing in the state tournament.

For me it is the end of the parent camaraderie in the stands. We are a faithful bunch of ever-hopeful supporters. Realistic in our expectations, we have often been surprised by our girls over coming big odds and great deficits to pull out improbable wins. We have felt the teams pain when they lost when they had a chance and proud when they kept at it until the end.

I think the days off from school the last few days due to the ice and snow did not help the girls feel fighting ready. I was hoping the other team also was lagging from winter problems, but they were not.

Carter has loved playing on this team and I know will miss seeing this group every afternoon. I will miss watching them play and sitting in the bleachers with the other parents. But after a little rest for her ankle to finish healing it will be time for conditioning to start to help get ready for next year.

Despite this loss Carter said to me in the car on the way home that she learned so much this year and had the best time. Only one team can win, but every player can personally win if they take the lessons they gained through the season and use it to improve not just in basketball for next year, but in everyway.

Learning how to be a team, support each other, listen to coaches, have good sportsmanship, get up when you fall down, offer a hand to help an opponent up, be gracious as well as tenacious, try things you never thought you could do, these and many other lessons are the kind of things you learn from a team sport that you never learn in a classroom.

Thanks to the coaches Krista and Robert. It is not easy to mold, motivate and inspire teenagers. Hell, sometimes it’s not easy just to be with teenagers.

I am already looking forward to sitting in the bleachers next year, cheering for the girls who will keep building on what they have learned already. It was a great season. You all should be proud.

Winter Travel

I felt terrible that both Russ and I were away from home when an ice storm hit Durham. That meant that our wonderful friends the Toms who had agreed to let Carter stay with them had her at home for two days off school. It is one thing to agree to have a sixteen-year-old visit, who can drive, has her own car and is planning on being at school and basketball practice most of the time. It is another thing to have a sixteen year old cooped up in your house. Thanks to Lynn, Logan and Ellis for taking such good care of Carter.

I was lucky enough to have had a ticket on the flight I did today because it was about the only window of good weather to get home in. Yesterday’s full flights were canceled and todays were already full.

I pulled in the driveway today to a “Welcome Home MOM” carved into the ice in our driveway. I don’t know how Carter did that because the ice on top of the snow was so hard that my car could not break through the thick coating. Even with me jumping up and down on the ice I can’t seem to crack it. I did not jump long because I could easily fall and crack me on this stuff.

I have only been home a couple of hours and now it is snowing here. It is a slow light flake type of precipitation, but I am glad I landed during the clear spell nonetheless. Since it is right at freezing I am not sure when the ice on the driveway will possibly melt. Given the gravel underneath I am not going to try and shovel it since it would take a pickaxe.

I am thrilled to be home with my girl and our pup. Absence definitely makes the heart grow founder, the driveway sign is evidence of that. But I also only had a few short visits with my DC friends and seeing the few I did for such brief times makes me miss them more.

My friend Jeanne even came to the airport this morning to have breakfast with me so we could spend as much time a possible together. There is just not enough time in life, yet alone the day, to get to really see and be with all the people you love.

Besides coming home to Carter the other good thing is I need to get back to monk like eating and exercise. Something about staying in a hotel made me think I can eat omelets and toast for breakfast. I did, but I shouldn’t have. The snow and freezing, really single digit weather also made me think I could drink the hot chocolate with marshmallows and crushed peppermint stick the hotel put out in the afternoon, I did, but it was naughty.

I have to get back under control because before I know it spring break will be here and I can’t afford to be out of control before I am in the land of the best food on earth. Maybe I should dig an ice cave in the back yard and just stay hibernating for the next three weeks. I wonder if I could dig a cave big enough for my treadmill.

Home sweet home.

Proof the World is Small

Yes, I lived in Washington DC for ten years, but that was twenty-two years ago. This was the first place I came after graduating from college. It is where I worked, made friends, played, married Russ Lange and eventually left.

Today, in the snow covered city I went to visit the new office space for Russ’ business to help plan the build out. Once the subject changed from furniture and paint colors to technology I excused myself and left Renee to handle the real work. By that time the sun had broken through and some sidewalk shoveling had taken place. I decided I should walk back to the hotel so I could freshen up before getting on the Metro to go up to Bethesda to meet my friend Tricia.

One of my big reasons for volunteering to come work on the DC office build out is that I really wanted to see Tricia. The last time I saw her was this past summer at her husband’s funeral. Tricia and I went to college together and she was a bridesmaid in my wedding. Her husband Danny was one of my favorite people on earth and now in heaven. Although it was important for me to be at the funeral I certainly did not get the quality time with Tricia I needed.

As I was walking along M street navigating my way across the slush filled corners to cross the numbered streets I came upon one corner whose lake of brown melted snow and ice was much too big and deep for me to traverse in one step. Although it would mean I had to go the wrong direction and walk on the non-sunny side of the street I turned to cross M street rather than the numbered street. As I looked up at a man standing on opposite corner I recognized my ground zero, very first new friend I made in DC, the man who introduced me to almost everyone I knew here, who lived above me in my first brownstone and became Carter’s Godfather, David MacKay.

Dressed in a big black coat with a black bucket hat pulled down over my face, scarf wrapped around my neck I screamed, “Hi, David.” He cocked his head, wondering who the hell I was, then in a split second he recognized the voice he knew so well, but did not expect to see. I might be able to walk around downtown Durham for a month and not see someone I know, let alone someone I love.

This has to stand as proof of how small the world really is. If it had not snowed the night before thus closing David’s office he would not have been on that corner at that time. If he ever had learned to cook he might not have been on the corner buying a sandwich at that time. If Renee and I had not been so efficient in doing our work I might not have been on that corner at that moment. If the water had not blocked up my path, causing me to change directions I might not have seen him standing on that opposite corner.

At my reunion with Tricia she reminded me of something I had written about my desire to spend more time keeping in touch with people I have known a long time and loved forever. Today’s chance meeting was confirmation of that. I had not let all my DC friends know of my trip because I was not sure how much free time I would have and I wanted to make sure I did my job. But now I know I need to come back soon and do a better job planning real quality visits with old friends. I think that running into David is a fairly strong message from somewhere to pay attention to old friends.

I’m a Winter Wimp Now

It never fails that when I go away I get the worst winter storm in years in Washington, the land of snow wimps and I leave my child home in NC to face the only snow day we have had all year. It wouldn’t be that bad except that she ripped her beloved uggs today to an unwearable degree.
Oh the mother guilt.

On the other hand Renee, Russ’ new office manager and I had a very productive morning doing what I came here to do, picking out office furniture. Since it is President’s day in the city of Presidents, most everything was closed today and we were the only customers at the furniture showroom. We could not go to see the new space because the building was closed so I was forced to take the afternoon off.

I had been worried that I would not be able to get my steps during this business trip so I had banked lots of extra steps in the beginning of the month. The zero degree weather was not really conducive to walking outdoors, but luckily the gym was available. I spent two hours working out all alone and playing Mah Jongg on my I-pad. I followed that with an hour in my whirlpool bath tub. Do I feel guilty that Carter was having a tough day at home? A little, but what can I do about it?

All the flights are canceled. The roads are impassable, school is canceled. My friend Lynn is taking good care of my baby. Russ is freezing his ass off working in Chicago. Life will go on. But now I am exercised, cleaned and just had a good dinner with Renee and am watching TV.

Even though Washington will be closed down tomorrow thanks to this big snow, but Renee and I will still be able to finish off our work. I promise I will get home Carter as fast as I can. I want to get back to NC warmth, so please let the snow melt in a southern wink of an eye. I’m tired of this cold and I have only had to deal with it two days. God bless all you Yankees who have had the worst winter ever. I can’t imagine…

Will Work For Tea

Russ has been working like crazy. When he asked me if I could help him out with doing the build out for a new office in DC of course I said yes. I cleared my calendar, made plans for Shay to go to her favorite sitter and asked Lynn if Carter could hang with her. Then the lease signing dragged on and on. I pushed my plans back, first one week and then another and a third. At last everything fell in to place.

I love DC. I lived here for for ten years from ’83-’93. My sisters live her and I still have lots of friends here. I knew that Russ needed me to come up here and work, so I came today so I would get a little time to play with friends.

Given the cold and wind in the weather it took me much longer to get here than planned. I checked in my hotel and despite the single digit feels like temp I walked the nine blocks to le Diplomat to meet my friends John, David and Karl. It was a good thing I walked because lunch at a French Bistro was going to blow out my diet. It was not the warm shrimp salad off the appetizer menu that was bad, but the basket of French pastries and mimosa that were sent over to us from the general manager who was friends with John. I was able to withhold from having the drink, but the one bite of each pastry I shared with the three boys still added up to one whole flaky, buttery sweet naughtiness.

After a long and leisurely time in the warmth of old friends and good food we had to face the cold. I should have walked back to the hotel, but the boys wouldn’t hear of it so they drove me right back to the door. As I entered my room I saw a giant carafe of iced tea and a plate of limes sitting on the bedside table.

Russ knowing that I function better with tea had made sure that the hotel supply me with my drink of choice without my having to order it for myself. That one little gesture is why I love my husband.

I hope that I have a productive time here and make him happy because he makes me happy all the time. Happy belated Valentines Day to Russ Lange. Thanks for getting a new office in a place I love to visit. I’ll show up here and work for tea anytime.

Prayers for a Heart on Valentine’s Day

A couple of days ago Russ’ younger brother David had a serious heart attack. He is a cop and it happened at work where a coworker recognized what was going on and threw him in his unmarked detective car and with lights flashing rushed him to the local hospital. The doctors said that saved his life.

Russ flew up to Philly to be with his family. When he got there he was able to see his brother sitting up in bed eating lunch. We all were very hopeful that everything was on the right road to recovery. After spending two nights up there Russ came home late this afternoon.

When he got here he told me that David’s heart was not doing as well as it needed to and he was going to need to be moved to a larger University hospital and hour and a half from home.

So on this day devoted to hearts I want to ask you to pray for my brother-in-law David and that his heart quickly recovers fully. Please keep his wife Tasha and three children, Bri, Sierra and Chris in your prayers as well.

David is only 47 and is otherwise healthy and strong. He has spent his life keeping other people safe. Being a cop is a stressful job, but there is nothing else in the world he wants to do than go back to it.

While you are at please pray for Russ’ father Marty. The stress of having his son in the hospital is not good for him either. I hope that your Valentine’s Day was one filled with love and a healthy heart.

Last Regular Season Basketball Game

It was a do or die game tonight for Carter’s team at North Raleigh Christian tonight. The last time they played them at home one of the Captains, Cha’Mia was injured to the point of being out for the rest of the season. Two weeks ago there were as many players injured as there were able to play and with that being five of each it made the last few games of the season tough.

Carter diligently did her rehab since he coach really needed her for this game. She practiced hard yesterday and was able to play today. That made seven regular players on the team and one angel Grace who played not only the JV game earlier today but played up for this game too.

This was the last game of the regular season and if the lady Cavs lost this one it would mean they would not go on to any state tournament. This was also the last game I was going to see since I have to be away no matter what happens at the state level.

Tonight the girls played hard. Every member of the team contributed and they pulled out the win. It was not their prettiest game, but they did what they do best, never give up and fight to the end.

I am thrilled they will get one more chance to play and if they can win that at least another, but for me the basketball season is over. The sitting in the bleachers with the other team parents, cheering for our girls will have to wait another eight months to start again. I have love every minute of this sport. The support, camaraderie,celebrations, and consolations have made my heart sing. I count at least ten needlepoint ornaments I completed while sitting at games. You would think I was not watching by that amount of progress, but you can stitch a lot during warm ups, timeouts and half time.

The best news is that with no seniors on the team we do not have to say goodbye to anyone yet. I am already thinking about how sad I will be come this time two years from now when Carter is a senior. I am more than a little addicted to this team so I guess aim just going to have to keep coming to games even when I don’t have a child on the team.

Thanks to coaches, Krista and Robert and thanks to all the players. You brought a lot of warmth and light to a cold and dark season.

My Dog’s Eating Disorder

Maybe Shay Shay knows something about the flavor of tissues, paper towels and napkins that I don’t know, but given a chance she will nosh away on them, but turn her nose up at almost every dog food on the market. I’ve heard of people with eating disorders who chew on paper rather than eat in food an effort to keep the pounds off. I can’t seem to find a calorie count for tissues or paper towels, but it seems to me that anything you eat that does not go straight through you, like a penny, could put weight on you if you eat enough of it.

What in the world makes Shay love paper, and I don’t just mean greasy napkins that had pizza wiped on them, but even perfectly clean new tissues, ripped to shreds and swallowed down? Have I been missing a yummy delicacy all these years? Could a sheet of Bounty be as good as a brownie?

Maybe paper needs to come with nutritional charts just like all foods do now. If eating paper is ok recycling could be a thing of the past if it turns out that the latest office memo is also a yummy snack.

For the record I try and keep most pulpy snacks away from Shay, but she does not appear to have any bathroom troubles when she does consume a Kleenex or two. I just know that I have to coax her to eat dry dog food by lacing it with chicken or cheese. Maybe I should just give her an old napkin with her kibble.

Pretend is a Wonderful Place

With some of the sad realities of life happening around us I sometimes would like to go to the land of Pretend where everyone is healthy, happy and kind. Sometimes there is not much I can do about the bad or the sad in the world. When I am feeling a little down and useless because of that I like to look at a little book of Quotes from Carter when she was three. The wisdom and imagination of that age takes me away from the things I have no control over.

Here are a few little vignettes from that book:

“In August we were never alone. Carter had an imaginary husband, a daughter and a baby in her tummy. ‘They don’t have names, and don’t ask me again!.’ They are new additions to Carter’s imaginary sisters, Lala and Teetee. There is a good Lala and a bad Lala and sometimes they are both with us.

“September 4, 2002 was Carter’s second day of school in the frog class. While working on the computer she told her teacher, ‘I know how to fix computers, my husband taught me.’”

“’So, what happened at school?’

‘Conner asked me to marry him.’

‘He did. What did you say?’

‘Mom, I couldn’t say anything. Conner asked me right in front of my husband.’”

“Mommy, when I grow up I will have to move far away from you. But don’t worry. I will always remember you in my heart.”

Oh, to be three again.

How It Looks or How It Feels

Today I took my car into to get washed and have the inside cleaned. Yes, it did start to rain within an hour of my laying out good money to get a professional clean up my car. Am I an idiot for not looking at the answer machine I have with me at all times that has not just one, but four different weather apps, before I pulled into the car wash? Probably. The thing about the rain is that it may make the outside of my clean car look dirtier faster, but the inside is still pristine and that is the part that was making me unhappy when it was dirty.

To the world I really don’t care if my car is dirty so cleaning the outside is the least of my issues. I want to part of the car I live in to be nice and not feel gritty and no one else really sees that. That is also the way I feel about myself. I really don’t care what I look like to you, but to me I want to feel good.

My hair is a perfect proof of that. Last week while I was with a group of friends I see regularly the subject of hair color came up since a couple of friends were going off to get their hair done. I announced that I had never colored my hair and was met with disbelief. My evidence is my hair and the argument that no one would ever pick mousey brown as their color of choice.

Having grown up in a family of not the best hair my reason behind never coloring is that I want to preserve what little poor quality hair I have. Since I don’t have to look at my hair color it does not really bother me, but I do like that it feels as fine as it does. There it is, not the way it looks, but the way it feels to me.

Now I do want thinner thighs, not for the way they look, but that they don’t rub together when I walk and that feels better. I like weighing less, not to be thinner, but because being able to zip and button my jeans feels better. I like my house to be clean, not so it looks better to someone who walks in, but because I like the way a clean floor feels to my bare feet.

If there were a preference for how things look to others or how they feel to you which way would you go? It is clear to me that I am not going to make anyone else happy but myself and I feel fine about that. I hope you don’t mind seeing me in my dirty car with my mousey brown hair with the greying temples, just know I am happy in there.

Souper Bowl

I’m not someone who likes single purpose tools, but for some reason I have kept these ugly onion soup bowls for 33 years. I remember buying them from Wetzel’s catalog showroom in Carlisle the summer I lived there since I was friends with Chuck Wetzel’s. I think he must have given me a discount on them because they are so unattractive. Despite the look everyone in my family is happy when I bring them out because that means I am making French Onion Soup.

In honor of the big game tonight I made Soup! There is nothing easier and the soup base is very healthy. Adding a slice of toasted bread and a little Swiss cheese makes it a little less healthy, but if it is your whole meal it is still not too bad.

5 big sweet Onions sliced thickly
1 T. Sugar
32 oz. of Beef Stock
1 cup of white wine
2 Bay leaves
Handful of fresh thyme-tied with kitchen string
1/2 t. Garlic powder
Salt and Pepper

Spray a stockpot with Pam and put the onions in on medium high heat. Cook stirring every few minutes until the onions begin to brown. Sprinkle sugar on the onions and cook another minute.

Add the stock, bay leaves and thyme. Bring to boil and reduce to simmer. Cook for 20 minutes. Add the wine and garlic powder and simmer another 15 minutes. Taste and salt and pepper as needed.

But in an ugly bowl and float a piece of toasted French bread and top with cheese and put under the broiler to melt the cheese. You may be tempted to put so much cheese on it that it melts all over the outside of the bowl. Don’t do it! It makes a big mess in your oven and doubles the number of calories.

Frying Chicken is No Exercise

I slept in a little this morning, really just a little rather than getting up and walking. I knew that I was going to be busy making “somebody died? fried chicken” and going to a funeral I thought that I deserved a little lie in. Boy was that a mistake.

Thoughtfully I had two friend’s lose loved ones pass away in close proximity to each other so I was able to kill the proverbial two birds with one stone and just fry double the chicken in one grease cloud fried mess. Making this “you only get it in times of great sorrow” chicken takes some time, but I thought it would be more of a workout than it was.

After a few hours tending the stove I checked my fitbit to discover that I had walked a pitiful 1,500 steps while making 48 pieces of chicken. That is only about 30 steps per thigh, and I mean chicken thigh, Dreadful!

Now I have no control when people pass away, but it is the last day of the month. I have been on a fairly good run of walking over 20,000 steps a day, save two of my sick days. I knew that I had banked some extra steps early in the month and I quickly used up my surplus when I did not get out of bed all day last Sunday.

As of last night I was in good standing as long as I did at least 20,000 today. What was I thinking, sleeping in? I knew that funeral attendance would equal virtually no steps, but why did I think that chicken cooking would be a big stroll in the park. I am here to say it is not.

Cooking or being chained to a stove is not exercise. Perhaps if I did chain saw ice sculpting I would burn some real calories, but I don’t consider an ice sculpture appropriate sympathy fare. Maybe a treadmill stove is the answer, but somehow that seems counter intuitive to burning calories.

No Mrs. Lange

Growing up in the sixties in Connecticut with very young parents who had even younger friends I was almost always the oldest child around.  Given that youth was so prized at that time my parents friends abhorred the idea of being called Mr. or Mrs. Anything. Thus I called all parents really close friends by their first names.

I in turn was very old before Carter came around and since she was born in Durham, NC, which is not as southern as most North Carolina towns, but is still far more southern than Connecticut
, her friends called me Mrs. Lange and she called all most of my friends Mrs. or Mr. Something.  Only recently have things begun to relax.

One of Carter’s good friends who spends a good amount of time at our house felt close enough to me to give me a less formal nick name of Dma, short for Dana Mom.  Another who only moved here a year ago just calls me Dana since she was fifteen when she met me.  Carter refers to me as Dana with her group of friends and a couple of them have taken that as a sign that they can call me Dana too, which I actually prefer.

But old habits are hard to break.  This week one of Carter’s oldest and best friends Campbell turns sixteen.  Carter and Campbell started Pre-k together and have been together for twelve years now.  Campbell is the friend that broke Carter of her fear of sleeping at someone else’s house, or technically, Campbell’s mother Hannah broke her.  We have gone on vacation with Campbell, taken her on trips with us and if ever there was an emergency, Campbell was there.  I think it is time for Campbell to stop calling me Mrs. Lange.

I think it is easier to refer to me as Dana  behind my back, but to my face I’m not sure it will happen. It just makes me feel really old to be called Mrs. Lange and I would like for Carter’s friends to help me out in the reverse aging process and start calling me Dana.

Happy Birthday Campbell.  It is hard for me to believe that you are sixteen.  Just a moment ago you were a Daisy in my troop, waiting for the goldfish to be handed out, now you are driving.  Your birthday present to me is that you call me Dana from now on.  My present to you is the same thing it always is, if you ever need help, you can call me.  I love watching you grow up to being such a wonderful person and I look forward to seeing all the places you go in the next twelve years.

You Start To See The Thread

As I was heading out to a board meeting in Raleigh I got a text from Carter, excited after her advance photography’s class went to visit the Nasher Art Museum. “OMG, I wish you were with us. I loved the ancient and medieval paintings and pottery and sculpture,” she gushed. “I can’t wait to show you the photos I took of what I saw.”

Music to a mother’s ears.

Most people don’t know I was an art major in college. It was not so much because I had a huge artistic talent, but that I quickly figured out that I could produce fifty prints of one silk screen and sell them for $50 each and be making more cash than my parents were paying in tuition. I guess I really was a Sales Major, but my fine liberal arts institution would have frowned on that as an official major.

The true art talent in my family is my mother. If you want proof visit her website at Jane Carter Art. You don’t have to know much about art, just visit the Awards page to see the long list of art shows she has won. Finally after winning everything there is in the south she decided to stop entering shows. I thought that was nice of her to give some new artists chances to win, since I’m sure if she entered she would take a prize.

My sister Margaret is also quite artistic as an interior designer and if you want to see what her eye can do visit Margaret Carter Interiors. My baby sister Janet is also a great photographer, but you will just have to take my word on that.

All that being said, it is nice to see the love of art coming out in my own daughter. She loves photography, but is now making the connection about history and art and how it is all tied together. It is nice to see a child learn to appreciate something you love all by themselves. I can’t wait to see how this weaves into a great fabric.

Late Afternoon Shopping Syndrome

This morning when I poured my milk on my cereal I noticed it was slightly tangier than it should have been. Of course that did not stop me from eating my regular breakfast. I just did not share the leftover milk with Shay as I usually do. It would be OK to make myself sick, but not my dog.

I went to work out and on my way home thought about stopping at the market to get a replacement milk, but then I got sidetracked in my own brain and before I knew it I was sitting in my driveway. Big mistake. I should have turned my car right around at that moment and gone to buy milk, but I did not. Instead I went inside and got on my treadmill to clock some steps before my weekly Mah Jongg game. Sounds like the plan of a woman who is towing the healthy living line. NO.

After losing all but one game at the table today I should have gone right to the store on my way home and picked up that one bottle of milk, but I did not. Instead I came home to walk Shay who had been deprived of her milk snack this morning and had been home alone for a few hours. Sounds like I was being a good dog mommy, but I was setting myself up for a bigger mess up.

I should have gone right back out to the store, but instead I got on my treadmill, then I thought I would wait until Carter ran home between school and basketball practice so I could see her for five minutes. Sounds like I was being a good Mom, but it was a mistake.

By the time I did all those other things I remembered that I needed milk at 4:30 in the afternoon so off to the store I went. Big Mistake. 4:30 is my number one most hungry hour in the whole day. What was I thinking going unaccompanied into a grocery store full of Super Bowl Snack displays with a full wallet and empty stomach? Why did I get a cart when I really only needed milk?

The milk I buy is all the way in the back far corner of the store. With a giant cart, a full wallet and big eyes I wondered through the fruits and vegetables. First putting blueberries and a ripe avocado in my cart. Not so bad. But then I neared the fresh baked bread with samples for free, and then a cookie display and suddenly I had eaten things that I thought I had conquered.

Cheese and Bacon went in the cart with my salad for dinner plan being thrown out the window. At last I arrived at the milk where once the glass bottle was in the cart I made a beeline for the check out. $34 later I was walking out the store with two full bags.

Since my store does not offer armed guards at 4:30 to hold a weapon on me so I only keep to my list, I think my only answer to over come late-afternoon-shopping-syndrome is to leave my wallet, credit cards and phone in the car and just walk in the grocery store with $5 next time I need milk. That way I have no extra money to buy what I clear should not. Oh the depths I need to sink to in order to live a healthy life.

Ed Carter, Ahead of His Time

When I was a kid my sisters and I would spend our Saturday mornings riding around in my Dad’s car while he did errands. The loop was usually the same, the bank, since it was back in the day before ATM’s to get cash; the hardware store to get whatever items were needed for the weekend’s chores, since we were the in house handymen and painters; the grocery store, since my Dad wanted to eat and was without his executive dining room over the weekend; the liquor store, for cash if we missed getting to the bank before noon when it closed and for other things they sold at the liquor store – to us kids it was for the free lollypops ensuring future customer loyalty; the chain saw and lawn mower store, since we were our own lawn service; and lastly the car wash since my Dad liked his cars really clean and although he trusted his children with saws, power tools and climbing up on the roof to fix the antenna he wanted a professional to wash his car.

Long before my sister Janet was born and Margaret was just toddler, nick named George, I was used to riding in the front seat of my Dad’s black Corvair on our Saturday errands. As we drove up South Avenue in New Canaan heading towards Belcher’s, the chain saw store, with the windows open and my father singing at the top of his lungs, “Michelle, my belle,” I would lay down on the floor of the front seat in embarrassment.

“People are looking at us,” I would plead.

My father would just laugh. “They don’t care,” he would say, but to pacify me he would take me into Breslows, the candy and magazine store and buy me a Heath bar while he picked up a Car and Driver Magazine.

My dad loves all things about cars, especially the radio and he loves to sing.   From the time I was about five and protesting his public displays of singing with the Beatles on the radio he would tell me what his dream job was.

“I want to be a rock ‘n roll weather man.”

This seemed nothing but mortifying to me, but his dream did not change the older I got. This was an idea that was way ahead of its time. MTV was yet to even be a twinkle in anyone’s eye. The Weather Channel was double decades away. My father loved rock ‘n roll, making up songs on the fly and really should have been a meteorologist because he has been entranced by weather his whole life.

As I sit today with so much news surrounding me about the weather, blizzards or snownatos or any other made up term for what is happening out there I think my Dad was so far ahead of his time. I would welcome rock ‘n roll weather as a way of learning what is going on. I so quickly tire of repetitive and constant weather reporting. I am sure that the GDP is adversely affected by this constant blah, blah, blah about what might be happening days before it comes.

So Dad, I am sorry I lay on the floor of your car crying about your singing. I was so wrong. You were once again years ahead of your time. If only I had promised you an executive dining room at home if you opened a rock ‘n roll weather station you might have given up the corporate life and now I would be a rock weather princess.

Sick Day’s Activities

I don’t think I make a good sick person. Russ left for Chicago at four in the morning and Carter got off to school all by herself so I slept in to try and sleep off this flu. Thanks to good drugs I was able to leave my bed but I still felt under the weather.

I decided that I should not leave the house since I have no idea if I am still contagious and no one needed to see me anyway. Since I got all of 448 steps yesterday I thought the least I could do today was walk, albeit slowly on my treadmill. Maybe I should have walked faster to sweat out the sickness, but I don’t think my balance was up to it.

Stuck at home, feeling poorly and all alone I decided to binge watch a show that had won big at the Golden Globes, but that I had never heard of, called Transparent. It is on Amazon Prime and I thought the ten half hour episodes would be the perfect way to while away this yucky day.

Transparent is the story of a gigantically dysfunctional family whose seventy year old father is a Trans and comes out to his three grown up children. To give you some idea how dysfunctional they are the father is the least screwed up.

It is a very grown up show so if you have a weak stomach for grown up issues I don’t recommend it, but otherwise it is a deep study in crazy. I would say it did not help me feel any better except that it gave me a great appreciation for my family. In comparison all the people in my very extended family who I thought were crazy are down right normal, even my cousin George, bless his soul.

I am really looking forward to being well soon and not filling my days with binge watching because there is no normal left on TV anymore. When is House of Cards coming back?

There’s Only 1K

Whichever blue you bleed today we are all Duke Blue Devils in celebration of Coach K’s nail biting 1,000th win as a NCAA division I coach. I am somewhat thankful I am stuck sick in bed because if I wasn’t I might have missed watching this historic game. I am not an appointment basketball watcher except for Carter’s team, but seeing this game played at Madison Square Garden against St. John’s with a packed house almost made me feel better.

Well, that is not quite true, I felt much worse when Duke was down by ten in the third quarter, but when Plumlee came into the game and turned around the defense suddenly my sickness melted away.

During the post game interview when K was asked about what he thought of this being his 1,000 win he said something typical of him and of most consistent winners, “I was in this game, that’s how you get to 1,000. But we are 17-2 and we have to go to Notre Dame on Wednesday.”

This morning Carter and I were talking about our favorite words and I said mine was stick-to-it-tive-ness. She asked me if that was a real word and I said absolutely, but know now that my computer dictionary does not recognize it as such. To me Coach K represents that perseverance. Love him, (if you are a Duke fan, fan of Team America or no basketball fan) or hate him, (if you are the fan of any other team) you have to respect him and give him all the accolades due someone who has reached this seemingly unreachable pinnacle in men’s sports. Yes, Pat Summit had done it in women’s basketball, but coach K, you only need 99 more wins to beat her record. I think that Duke would like you to stay around and try and break her record. That would be real stick-to-it-itve-ness.

Congratulations to a great man and to the wonderful young people who play for him. It is a lot of pressure on these young athletes to perform under such high expectations. Sometimes I forget that I am watching a group of teenagers. But that is the magic of a great coach who takes the players he is given and with the rest of his staff and in coach K’s case his wonderful family, molds them into a winning team, year after year. The players come and go and even the assistant coaches move on to be head coaches at other schools, but coach K stays and keeps teaching and training new people. The common denominator of these winners is Coach K. Seems like getting to 1K was inevitable, but no one should imagine it was easy, for if it were you would not be the only one. Thanks for being a great role model.

Power Through Sickness

I guess it was inevitable. There was no way for me to take care of Carter being sick last week and not get sick myself. I got home from a party last night and thought my throat was sore from talking loudly over the crowd, but comm’on, I have the loudest voice on earth so I should have known I was coming down with something.

I slept fitfully, dreaming I over slept for an important meeting I had this morning. In my haze of half sleep I thought it was 11:30 in the morning which meant I was already an hour and a half late. Luckily it was just a bad dream. I got up in time to drink a cup of theraflu tea and it tied me over enough to make the meeting.

I warned everyone there of my illness and promised not to touch anything. I was reporting on budgeting issues and I would have begged off from going, but much action was required so I powered through my report that my group had been working on for weeks.

I think that the medicine gave me enough calming relief to deliver the message required while also tempering my bulldozing tendencies. This became obvious to me when a member of the group who had previously had trouble with me said, “Thank you for your presentation you were incredibly sweet and Christian.” I waited for a lighting bolt, but when it did not happen I shed one tear of thanks that I had delivered the information in a way that everyone could hear it and act on it.

Once the budget was approved I was dismissed and rushed home to crawl back in bed where the sickness has taken hold of me full on. I guess someone from above was giving me a reprieve for just long enough to do some good works, but before I got too proud, knocked me down and made me feel terrible.

Sadly I will miss seeing Margaret and Page, friends who moved away but are back visiting tonight. I hate being sick, but I hate causing others to be sick more. Quarantine for me. Thank goodness I have Russ to take care of me. Now I am praying he does not get it.

Final Wishes

Yesterday a stitching friend of mine came late to needlepoint because she was busy buying a burial plot for her daughter–in-law’s father. The man passed away in December in Texas, but with no plan or direction about what to do with his remains his daughter decided to have his ashes buried in Chapel Hill where her in-laws live even though she does not.

While my friend was at the Chapel Hill Cemetery she went ahead and got plots for herself and her husband even though she says, “he will never die.” I think they have a long time to hold on to those plots before they need them, but better to have a plan than leave it up to your loved ones to do as they might.

Our stitchers were very interested in the whole process of picking out a final resting place. The plot buyer told us that she had to call the Parks and Rec. department of Chapel Hill to get the woman who sells the plots to show her around the available sites. Clearly selling burial plots is in the Park part of Parks and Rec. I would hate to get the guy who runs youth basketball and probably does not know a thing about what makes a good or bad final resting place.

Having a conversation with your loved ones about what you want done is not always easy. Based on my disappointing my child today because I was not going to her basketball game if I were to go today I might end up in a plot in Newark on the Jersey Turnpike.

It all really does not make any difference to me, just that I want to be cremated. I don’t want anyone looking at me when I’m gone. I currently use the “distract people with some witty banter” strategy so they don’t look too closely at my wrinkles, rolls and varicose veins. I made the mistake of letting a friend of mine who sells clothes look at my winter white flabby legs in black ankle socks and she exclaimed, “Your legs are two different sizes.” Well, of course they are. When your weight goes up and down as much as mine does all your parts are mismatched.

I’m not sure why there is a need for a plot to put my ashes in. I certainly don’t expect anyone to come and “visit” them. I plan on living forever through the Internet, what difference does some dust make? So to my family, here are my wishes when I go, burn me up and walk away. Don’t pay for any silly urn that someone will have to figure out what to do with. Use the money to have a big party. Tell stories and eat a lot of good food. For once it won’t put an ounce on me.

Just Don’t Ask Me To Sing

I stopped in at Whole Foods today to grab a salad on my way to needlepoint. Right there in that one sentence are so many things that make me happy. First I was going to sit at the stitcher’s table and catch up with my friends. Second, I was getting a yummy salad that I did not have to cook, just pick and buy.

After I had gathered my roasted vegetables and seafood salad in one earth friendly container I went to the express lane that amazingly had only one other customer in it who was really only buying two items. I felt like the gods were smiling since despite this Whole Foods being in a well respected-college town and being expensive enough that only people who could read and count to 10 usually shop there, the express lane is often full of people with upwards of twenty items. I guess that these are overly educated and entitled people who feel like the rules don’t apply to them. All this being said I have never heard a check out person once admonish these rule breaking customers.

The express lane employees must be a special type of person who can keep people happy all the time. I was already happy, but my checker threw in a little comment that brightened my already good day when she said to me, “Do people tell you all the time that you look like Julie Andrews?” True to extra nice customer service training they get to run the express lane, when I must have had a very puzzled look on my face, she quickly added, “A very young Julie Andrews.”

“Oh my gosh, no,” I replied. No one has ever said I look like Julie Andrews, but thank you. I love her.” Another devoted Whole Foods customer walks out the door completely ignoring that her take out lunch cost as much as a white table cloth restaurant lunch.

The old saying, “flattery will get you everywhere,” could not be truer. Next time you need to ask a favor of someone start with a compliment. I promise you will get more than you would without it.

Why Are You Surprised It Tastes Good?

If I had to list things I can do and really do well cooking might be at the top of the list. I really like to eat so learning to cook was fairly essential at an early age. Since I grew up in the sixties going out to eat was a special occasion event. Most meals had to be homemade. Being a good cook probably contributed to my over eating problem, but it also has been key to loosing weight too.

My advice to young people is learn to cook.   It is one skill you will use everyday of your life, sometimes multiple times a day.

My own daughter is gaining interest in cooking only because she sees college in her future and she is worried about cooking for herself. When I say interest I am probably overstating the situation. She says things like, “You are going to have to teach me how to cook chicken before I go to college.” When I say, “Ok, I’ll teach you now.” I am met with a look that says, “Not now.”

It takes years to get to be a really great cook and that is if you are actually interested and have the time and the money. Knowing that Carter sees the learning as something she can put off until the last moment I am trying to make things now that are really easy to cook are cheep and tasty hoping to entice her to learn. The problem is that she often turns up her nose at new foods.

Yesterday was a perfect example. I made pancetta wrapped pork tenderloin with rosemary, lemon zest and fennel seeds with a side of green lentils. She had a bit of the pork and refused the lentils.

Tonight when she went to have dinner the mashed potatoes that were in the refrigerator were passed their prime. Seeing few options I offered her a bite of my lentils. Surprise, she loved them. A quick microwave of a cup and she had a new food she discovered liking.

When Carter was little she was a very adventurous eater. She was the only child at nursery school who was eating salmon roll-ups for snack. Somewhere along the way she started giving up foods she once loved and protesting things I cooked. Now if I can just get her to take a bite she often say, “Oh, I like this.”

Why is she surprised it tastes good? I actually can cook and I also like to eat good tasting food. Now if I can just get her to start doing some of the cooking so she can take care of herself in a couple of years.

Stinky Day

Carter came down with a terrible cold while on her basketball retreat. It never fails that she gets sick when she away from. I still remember the saddest call I ever got from her when she had the flu in Taiwan while Russ and I were in Portland. I was helpless to do anything for her being half way around the world but reassure her that she will get better, even though my mother heart just wanted to hug her.

She stayed home today still feeling achy, stuffed up and generally awful. I had to leave her home alone while I went to a meeting to calm a smoldering situation. After dampening the potential firestorm I stopped by the grocery to get some food to cook a real dinner for my family.

When I walked in the door Carter came up from her room still dressed in her sleeping shirt and shorts and said, “I have the worst news.” My heart stopped. Carter is not known for hyperbole so when she says it’s bad my stomach feels as if it has moved into my throat.

“What’s wrong?” I ask, dreading the answer. “One of my camp counselors died.”

“NOOOOOO,” I scream in my head. ‘How much more can happen this year?”

I give my girl a big hug. “I’m so sorry.” We go and sit in the sunroom with a cup of Theraflu for Carter and tea for me. She tells me all about this sweet girl and all the funny things she used to do at camp. My heart is breaking for Carter. I think of is this poor child’s family.

Carter’s camp network is strong. They are group texting to lean on each other. One of her local friends let’s her know he is here for her. She tells me to let his mother know what a good son she raised.

Carter says to me, “This is one stinky day.” That is putting it mildly.

Hug your children. Cherish every minute you have with them. Hopefully these stinky days will be much fewer and farther between them. I can’t protect my child from bad things happening, but I feel better when I am here in person to hug her.

Cauliflower Pizza Crust

Russ does not like cauliflower, so it was quite surprising to me when he e-mailed me a blog about cauliflower pizza crust. I think his love of pizza and the lack of my making it for the last few years finally had him succumb to a different way.

All the calories in a pizza are certainly not in the crust, but the part of a pie I like the best is the gooey cheese on top. Since I was craving some melted cheese today and was willing to take the calorie hit that involved I decided to try Russ’ recipe.

It involved chopping the raw cauliflower in the Cuisineart until was like snow, cooking it in the microwave and then putting it I a dish cloth and squeezing the water out of it.

I have to say that the end product of a pizza with caramelized onions a little sauce and five kinds of cheese was very tasty. I certainly could taste the cauliflower in the crust, but I like that vegetable. I think if you are trying to cut white flour out of your diet this is a very successful substitute.

In the end I felt like I was getting to eat pizza, but I am sure that the scale tomorrow will also know I ate pizza. There is no way around the cheese calories, but sometimes you just have to have some melted cheese!

If you want to make it yourself here is the link to the recipe I used.

Cauliflower Crust Pizza | Tasty Kitchen Blog
http://tastykitchen.com/blog/2013/08/cauliflower-crust-pizza/

Empty Nest Practice

Last night after the boys varsity team made their twelfth point in honor of Ryan whose jersey number is 12, Carter’s and her basketball team mates left school for a retreat at Emerald Isle. This long ago planned trip came at a perfect time for the girls to relax and just have some fun. What it meant for me and Russ is that we get a weekend alone to see what life is like with Carter gone during the cold months.

We are well acquainted with an empty house in the summer when Carter makes Camp Cheerio her home of choice, but she is almost always home the rest of the year. I don’t know why it makes a difference, but I somehow thought that I might be different, more productive, less in vacation mode in the winter.

I really could not be more wrong. Although Russ got up at his regular five AM, I was able to stay asleep until almost ten. Then I lazed around until noon. What a mistake that was. By the time I was up and dressed I was running out of time to get my steps in and do the laundry, unclog the shower drain, change the burned out light bulbs, pay the bills and a myriad of other minor chores.

I was determined to get my steps done before I did any other fun things. So much for spending the day with Russ to see what life sans child would be like. While I was walking he was napping. I guess this is much more like old age than I envisioned.

To counteract the potential steps towards a retirement home we decided to go out tonight on a little date. Normally if it’s just the two of us eating we can be in and out in under forty-five minutes since we try and not eat too much. That’s just not much of a date. I had originally thought of a movie and dinner, but after watching The Green Mile this afternoon while I was on my treadmill I couldn’t take the emotional hit of a second movie.

Russ suggested we go downtown for a drink at Bar Lusconi before dinner because they happen to have a Flanders Red Ale that Russ has been trying to find in North Carolina. Now we are taking “real date” because I drank some of his beer. Finding Bar Lusconi is not easy since it really doesn’t have a sign, but if you look for the lights hanging in the window of an ex-barber shop on East Main Street just down from the old court house you will find it. I highly recommend going there to order a Duchesse de Bourgogne Belgian beer.

After some bar time it was off to Gregoria’s Cuban restaurant in honor of the loosening of sanctions. True to form we were in and out in under an hour. Probably because I just had soup and Russ just had Paella. No starters, no dessert, no coffee, we were a waiters nightmare. At least we let him have a chance to turn the table quickly.

Back home by eight to snuggle in bed with Shay Shay so much for date night. Instead we both have our I-Pads out and as soon as I post this it’s on to needlepoint. Empty nest seems to be a lot like full nest, just less laundry. I hope Carter is having a bigger time than we are.

Stay Strong

Friday night four young people, three of whom are basketball players on the boys basketball team had a bad car accident. Carter is friendly with these boys who share the same court that she does at school. Learning the news of their accident has been very difficult since they were badly hurt.

As I was going out the door today for a church meeting Carter, my new driver said, “Be careful driving. Use your turn signal. Make sure your seat belt is on. Look both ways. Go slowly.”

“I’m just going around the corner,” I responded.

“Still be careful.”

It has been a tough year with the death of one classmate a few months ago and now this accident. These life lessons coming this close together are hard on everyone, but especially teenagers. I want Carter to be a very careful driver, but I hate for her to learn the need this way.

Please pray for them. Please pray for their families. Pray for doctors and nurses who care for them. Pray for their friends and classmates. Pray for their teachers and coaches. Pray for their community.

Tomorrow a whole school of kids will leave the sanctuary of their homes and go back to school to face classrooms and practice courts without their friends who are healing. Pray they heal well and quickly.

Keep Dancing, You Inspire Me

I spent my day in a strategic planning retreat for Carter’s school. Doing strategic planning is a long, but important process. Many very thoughtful people have spent countless hours meeting, surveying, thinking, talking, reading, writing and talking some more. Today 56 smart, busy and important people plus me came together to brainstorm and talk and think some more. It was an exhilarating process and one I think will produce a good plan. It is still weeks or months away from being done, but strides were made.

After mostly sitting in an auditorium for eight hours I moved from one side of the campus to the other to watch Carter play a really tough home school basketball team and pull out a win. It is lower school night at the “Cav Dome” as the court is called and many small kids and their parents came out to watch the games.

After Carter’s game the varsity boys came out and took the court for warm up with some heart pumping music to help hype them up. As much as I love to watch me some high school basketball I really needed to get home and have something healthy to eat, get my steps in after a day of sitting and walk my sweet Shay. As I was getting ready to leave the gym I stood up and saw five little boys standing on the back bleachers dancing their hearts out as they watched “their team” shooting baskets.

They clearly were having the best time in the world, without a care or actual rhythm in one case. Suddenly my day came into focus. I was not working on a five-year plan for my child; she will have long graduated before the majority of it takes hold. These dancing boys were the reason so many adults gave up their time to help make a school where they will be nurtured to be people who can make the world a better place.

So to Wesley and Will and your other dancing friends, thanks for inspiring me to keep working. I want you and all the DA kids to feel like dancing all the years you are at DA. You made my long day end on a happy note!

To see these guys in action go to my youtube video. http://youtu.be/fk74NBx2fLE

When In Rome

I am having trouble finding time to write my blog because my hours are filled up doing the most first world task, researching travel. I hate to complain about planning a trip, but the Internet has changed travel forever. No longer do you call a trusted travel agent who you know and has actually been where you are going and she steers you to a hotel she has seen. No, now you read endless reviews from people you may or may not like and take advice from millions of unknowns.

To compound my problem Is am trying to figure out where to stay in Rome, city of thousands of accommodations. Now throw one more variable in, we are starting and ending our trip in Rome so we can stay in two different places on the trip.

I have been to Rome three times and stayed in great places, but of course they have changed hands, and names. It seems the more I research the more confused I become. I started thinking I wanted to stay near the Spanish Steps, but then when I widened the search I was not so sure.

We are going to Rome with Carter who has fallen in love with Roman history. I want to stay near the action so that there is fun to be had for a teenager right near by. I want to walk and eat good food and see old stuff. If you have been to Rome in the last ten years and have any suggestions I want to hear them. What neighborhood would you stay in? Do you have a hotel recommendation? Did you eat someplace you wish you could go back to every week? What was worth doing and what do you wish you skipped?

Please be my “travel agent”. I am happy to take advice from people I know and tired of reading what someone from Tokyo thinks about the breakfast being served at a certain hotel. I hate breakfast in Tokyo so I probably would not agree with her taste anyway. But your taste might appeal to me! So I’m looking for opinions. Send comments, please.

Downton Lessons

The best part about having a blog is that I can use it as an excuse to re-watch last night’s Downton Abbey episode. There was something Cora said to her husband the Lord that I wanted to make sure I quoted correctly. So Spoiler alert, if you have not watched last night’s season premier of season five stop reading and go watch it.

The scene was at the 34^th wedding anniversary of the Lord and Lady Grantham. A young teacher that Lord Grantham disliked was invited as a guest. After a tense dinner when the young woman spoke her mind about politics that rubbed the landed gentry types the wrong way the whole group went into the drawing room for coffee. As she was getting ready to leave the outspoken teacher came up to Lord Grantham to say thank you and good night and say she wanted to go down stairs to thank the staff. That was just not done back in the day, but Lady Grantham was very gracious about it.

Lord Grantham who was just bristled said to his wife, Cora, “I assume you heard how she spoke to me at dinner.” Cora responded, “Of course, but how does it help to answer rudeness with rudeness?”

I didn’t really need to re-watch the whole show to get that bit of wisdom. It struck me the first time. It is a phrase I hope I can sear into my brain because I have a bad habit of answering rudeness with sarcasm and often a biting quip that makes the person I am speaking to have to think a moment and just as I am making my getaway they realized I said something so much meaner to them.

I don’t act this way often, but when I was younger I rarely hesitated before I took someone down who was rude to begin with. Now a day I realize that most of the time when someone is being rude they really are just ignorant and it is wrong for me to pick on the indefeasible.

But to those who are passive aggressive I have had little patience. Just say directly what you want to say and I will do my best to not be rude back. I am going to try and have Cora’s calm voice in my head saying, “How does it help to answer rudeness with rudeness?” Or as we say it in America, “Kill them with kindness.”

Of course this bit of wisdom from my favorite TV show will not outshine my favorite parts when the Grandmother played by Dame Maggie Smith says the most horrible things with the most innocent of looks. She would never subscribe to Cora’s way of thinking. I am afraid that I really aspire to be here, but I am neither old nor rich enough to act that way so I am going to try the nice way. Ha!

Being a Ref is the Most Thankless Job

Sometimes I am glad I don’t understand everything that is going on in Basketball because it keeps me from complaining about calls Ref’s make. I can’t imagine a harder job than trying to run back and forth on a court and watch ten different players doing ten different things. I have a hard enough time just following the ball, let alone all the people that are trying to get the ball.

At a game, which the opponent will remain anonymous, I had the displeasure of sitting behind a large group of family members from the other team. It was a good thing it was not a packed house so we could have a few empty rows between us. First because the Mothers’ hairdos were so big I could not see the court over them if I was right behind them. But the real bad part was the amount of smack they were screaming at the refs.

If bad sportsmanship had a PhD course these people were Doctors of how not to act in front of children. Not only did they complain about the refs at every call that did not go their way, but also one mother seemed to purposely pinch her baby when our team was making a free throw so the child would scream. This was completely unnecessary since the father’s were making rude sounds anyway.

At the end of the game the Ref’s, who I think were actually fearful for their lives, came up to the group and looked at the mother who resembled Sheena E from the early eighties in her ripped up acid wash jeans and earrings the size of saucers and said, “You are bad.” The language repeated back to the ref’s is unprintable, but those guys got out of that gym as quickly as possible. Here is the crazy thing, that mother’s team won.

Perhaps rather than team highlights on TV we need to have videos of parent lowlights. The poor children who have these people as their role models. I still can’t figure out which player they belonged to because no child on any team ever acted as poorly as these parents.

I think I am going to keep my ignorance of the game right where it is because I am never tempted to scream at a ref because I just won’t ever know as much as even the blindest ref. Poor people can’t get paid enough to put up with that kind of abuse.