Cooking for Others

There is one thing I can do, it’s cook. I always told young people to learn to cook, you use that skill everyday. I don’t cook as much for myself as I do for others these days. Russ is always coming up with things he wants me to make for him. It’s a good thing he likes leftovers because I am not good at cooking small amounts. I figure, make it once eat it three times, OK maybe five.

It seems like a lot of my cooking lately has been for others. I have been baking cooking for funerals at church. Or cooking meals for friends who need them. This is the kind of cooking I like to do.

For my friend Jan I have to think about the kinds of foods that are good for Chemo. No Beef as it would have to be well done. Not too much raw stuff. Not too caloric, but tasty.

Today I cooked for my friend Holley, who has ALS. She is at the stage where swallowing is not working so all her food is through a tube. I made things that are already liquid, but also food for her family that is not. The difference in cooking for Holley is trying to add as many calories in as small a liquid as possible.

I got to have a great visit with Holley and her husband Paul. Paul said the vitamix can liquify anything into a Holley palatable form. We joked about the industrial sized Duke’s Mayo and what it can be added to. My suggestion was liquified pimento cheese.

Cooking may be a small thing, but it is my outward expression of love to the friends who need it. Holley seems to be craving a cheeseburger casserole. I think I can whip that up and Paul can run some of it through the vitamix and keep some whole for himself and their daughter Wheezie.

Anything Holley and Jan want is my motto. I’m not near John Cadigan’s family up in Massachusetts to cook for them, so I hope other’s are doing it. There is nothing better than not having to think about making a meal when you are grieving. Leave the cooking to your friends. And friends, the cooking is your love.